By Guest Blogger, Trina Hahn, 2-1-1 Behavioral Health Navigator at United Way of Pierce County
This
is “Valerie’s” story.
‘Valerie’ first called 2-1-1 shortly after I started
working here. Our conversation started out like any normal call. I asked her
for some information and what kind of resources she was seeking. When ‘Valerie’
told me that she was looking for self-defense courses, she broke down and I
became very concerned. She was distraught. She was a victim of domestic
violence and was struggling...struggling to find someone who would listen to her
story and nobody was hearing her.
Trapped in her home, battered and afraid, ‘Valerie’ was
still able to pick up the phone. She called for help even
though she had gone through every resource she was given by law enforcement and
had received no help. She felt that she had hit a dead end. She was scared…afraid
for herself and for her child. ‘Valerie’ was trapped
inside, afraid to leave because her abuser was her neighbor. She feared
confrontation and the danger that she would be putting herself in if she left.
With an injured hand as a result of her last encounter with
her abuser and a crippling fear of the threat outside, ‘Valerie’ was unable to
work. She was at risk of not only the physical threat posed by leaving, but the
risk of not being able to provide for herself and her child. On top of the fear
of being unsafe, her mind was busy with how to pay for rent, food, utilities
and basic needs for her and her child. She believed her situation was not being
taken seriously. And I believed her.
‘Valerie’ wanted to take matters into her own hands. She
was afraid that she would not be protected by the police and was desperate for
resources that would help her take control of the fear she faced leaving her
home.
I could hear defeat in her voice...“I feel so helpless and I just want to give up.”
She was helpless and she didn’t want to feel that way anymore. I didn’t want her to feel that way either. Together I knew we could make changes that would give her confidence in herself. I wanted her to feel hope.
I could hear defeat in her voice...“I feel so helpless and I just want to give up.”
She was helpless and she didn’t want to feel that way anymore. I didn’t want her to feel that way either. Together I knew we could make changes that would give her confidence in herself. I wanted her to feel hope.
2-1-1
Steps in
‘Valerie’ and I talked for about an hour. I wanted her to
know that she was heard, and I wanted to address every unique situation she
presented me with a thoughtful answer. In addition to resources
for things that may help support her financially, I didn’t want the reason she
originally called to get lost in a maze of other referrals. I looked for
self-defense courses in the area. Even though I was unable to find direct
referrals for courses she could take for free, I didn’t want her to lose her
drive.
I gave ‘Valerie’ information about the community centers in the area and encouraged her to speak with Metro Parks. If these community centers did not offer self-defense courses, I told her not to give up and I suggested that she think about starting something of her own. ‘Valerie’s’ drive for change was infectious. If she was able to speak with Metro Parks and start participating in self-defense courses with other victims of domestic violence, people would benefit from her strength.
I wanted other people to hear her story. Many others were in her shoes- helpless, afraid, alone and unheard. I realized the potential in her to go forward and use her experience to change our community. Now all that we both felt was passion and motivation. I told her that if there were gaps in resources for domestic violence victims and survivors that she could become an advocate for change in our community. Valerie’s story was powerful, and I didn’t want it to get lost. I didn’t want her to give up on help. I knew that her story and strength could help inspire other people.
I gave ‘Valerie’ information about the community centers in the area and encouraged her to speak with Metro Parks. If these community centers did not offer self-defense courses, I told her not to give up and I suggested that she think about starting something of her own. ‘Valerie’s’ drive for change was infectious. If she was able to speak with Metro Parks and start participating in self-defense courses with other victims of domestic violence, people would benefit from her strength.
I wanted other people to hear her story. Many others were in her shoes- helpless, afraid, alone and unheard. I realized the potential in her to go forward and use her experience to change our community. Now all that we both felt was passion and motivation. I told her that if there were gaps in resources for domestic violence victims and survivors that she could become an advocate for change in our community. Valerie’s story was powerful, and I didn’t want it to get lost. I didn’t want her to give up on help. I knew that her story and strength could help inspire other people.
A Year
Later
A year later, I answered the phone as I do every day. I
introduced myself to my caller and before I was able to finish my sentence I
was interrupted by a shriek of delight and a familiar voice shouting back at me.
It was ‘Valerie’! It seemed like fate had brought us back together. She and I
quickly began talking like old friends and discussed her progress since the
last time we talked. I was so thrilled to hear the happiness in her voice while
she told me the latest developments in her story.
She was so excited to be speaking to the
same agent who had listened to her while she was in crisis, especially when
nobody else seemed to be listening at the time. I felt proud. This time, no
tears. Her voice was strong and powerful. I could feel the sparkle in her eye
through the phone. Valerie meant business.
“I’ve grown a lot from the beginning," she said.
She wanted to connect with others who were experiencing the same crisis she had. I was excited to give her information on peer support and told her how she could get involved by sharing her story with not only people I knew would listen, but who would benefit from hearing her story and her journey.
“I’ve grown a lot from the beginning," she said.
She wanted to connect with others who were experiencing the same crisis she had. I was excited to give her information on peer support and told her how she could get involved by sharing her story with not only people I knew would listen, but who would benefit from hearing her story and her journey.
She told me how much she had fallen in love with the law
and how she was spending great amounts of time using the law library and
researching different Federal and State laws. ‘Valerie’ dreamed of becoming
involved in legal services one day and I strongly encouraged her to do so. We
took a few moments discussing different options about how to get that started,
now or in the future, and how her passion would benefit many if she became
involved in criminal justice. She was so energetic and enthusiastic about how
the law could help people who have suffered domestic violence and other
injustices.
“That’s what I do! I advocate. I see a need and I try to fill it the best I can.”
“That’s what I do! I advocate. I see a need and I try to fill it the best I can.”
The
211 Gift
A part of our job at 211 is to conduct follow-ups with our
callers, not only to give them resources but to ensure they were able to access them. We call back to see if our referrals were able to provide
assistance and if not, why, and what barriers can we break through problem
solving so our callers are able to get the assistance they need.
When I called ‘Valerie’ back I wanted to ensure that all of her basic needs were being met and that her and her child were safe. She told me about her assistance with rent, utilities and food, so they were no longer a stress factor in her life. We talked about Metro Parks and the program she was starting to develop.
“I put it together and presented it to Metro Parks and it was accepted by them! I am still working on it!”
I was so impressed with the initiative that ‘Valerie’ had taken. Even though she was struggling and trying to find assistance for herself, she had still taken the time to call Metro Parks and inquire about self-defense courses and yet still found the energy from within to start the process of developing a program for our community so others feel empowered and safe.
This is not an easy or quick process, yet ‘Valerie’ has devoted her time to find a way she can move this program development along. Just knowing that this was something she was thinking about and working on was unbelievable to me. She had gone above and beyond for her community, and that has inspired me.
When I called ‘Valerie’ back I wanted to ensure that all of her basic needs were being met and that her and her child were safe. She told me about her assistance with rent, utilities and food, so they were no longer a stress factor in her life. We talked about Metro Parks and the program she was starting to develop.
“I put it together and presented it to Metro Parks and it was accepted by them! I am still working on it!”
I was so impressed with the initiative that ‘Valerie’ had taken. Even though she was struggling and trying to find assistance for herself, she had still taken the time to call Metro Parks and inquire about self-defense courses and yet still found the energy from within to start the process of developing a program for our community so others feel empowered and safe.
This is not an easy or quick process, yet ‘Valerie’ has devoted her time to find a way she can move this program development along. Just knowing that this was something she was thinking about and working on was unbelievable to me. She had gone above and beyond for her community, and that has inspired me.
‘Valerie’ dialed 211 and expected to be let down the way many before had let her down. Instead, she was connected to people who believed in her mission and the power one voice has to make an impact. Valerie walked away from our first conversation with tools in her belt that she was not expecting to gain from calling 211. Now, ‘Valerie’ knows she has a resource to call whenever she is in need, or wanting to connect others to help.
“You have always been such a blessing every time I call.”
211 is a call for help. Sometimes help comes in ways you don’t expect. ‘Valerie’ did not get the resources she was originally looking for...that happens and that is okay. Like many of our callers, ‘Valerie’ was given so much more than what she was looking for. Sometimes the help you need is help finding your voice and the encouragement to advocate for yourself to make change.
Stories like hers are why I am so proud of the job I do. 211 connects people to resources for help, and in this case it connected me to ‘Valerie’, who not only wanted help for herself but to help build a safer, healthier and happier community.
Get connected. Get answers. Make change.
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